Never Say to New Moms – I Hope You Are Happy
Do you have any advice for new dads when it comes to never saying “never” to new moms? First off, I know what your response will be. You’re probably thinking that I don’t have any advice for new dads because I’m a new dad myself and “never” doesn’t apply to me! I certainly hope that isn’t the case and you have kids or are pregnant, so I’m going to give you some good advice that applies to most new dads. Now before we get started there are a few things that need to be said about “never saying “never” to a new mom. Hopefully after reading this article you’ll be able to use this information to become a better new dad!
One thing that a lot of new dads struggle with is asking their wives what they think of their husband. Well, it’s perfectly natural to do this if you both have children. However, if you’re just starting out, then you may want to hold off on this particular request for now. There are a couple of reasons why I recommend this. First, you never know how long your wife is going to have the baby and once she does have the baby she may not be as open to sharing with you her feelings about the baby and father.
Second, if you ask your wife what she thinks about your relationship, then it’s possible she may not be as open to hearing from you as one would think. Sometimes, when a wife has an idea that she might have a problem in the relationship she will talk to one of her friends about it. If you ask your new dad this, then he might never hear the advice and might even feel slighted by the request. This is especially true if he has been hurt in the past by a new mom telling him something she did not mean.
Another thing that many new dads wonder about is whether or not they should try to get involved in their child’s life after the birth. I don’t agree with this either. I believe a child needs to have their own life before they are old enough to make decisions for themselves. It can be too easy for new moms to take over their child’s life but I believe taking care of yourself, the new dad, and the baby are still the most important things to do after the birth.
If you’re thinking about getting involved in your child’s life after birth, then I recommend you think twice about it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be there for your newborn and I believe most dads understand that. However, most new moms do not and I’m sure you didn’t think of that when you were considering pregnancy. If you really do feel that it is important for you to be there for your new born then that is all that matter.
Do listen to your new mom and do meet her needs. The most common reason that new moms seek out baby showers is to meet the new dad. Many new moms feel that if they do this they will feel closer to their new baby.
When you decide to meet the new dad, you have to realize that he might be nothing like the father that your friends have. Yes, they might know him and you might know them, but just because they are friends doesn’t mean that you know how their relationship is working. When you first meet your new dad, you will have to let him know that you are his new girlfriend. You need to be totally transparent at this point and let him know that you aren’t interested in getting married to him. That way he can be assured that you are someone who does not aspire to be a wife.
Most dads really appreciate this and they end up being more supportive. If you are a new mom and you are dating one of your friends’ babies, never say “I hope you’re happy” when he walks in the door. He could be feeling all mixed up about his future wife. Be sure to tell him as much! It’s really important to support the new mom by letting her know that her new baby is a gift and a blessing, not an obligation.